The Power of Kind Words

nice words, kind words

Use nice, kind words to create your reality.

Our words create our reality. That is the power of language.


Magicians know this. They say “abracadabra,” which is an Aramaic word meaning “I will create as I speak.” Their words have transformative properties. They then pull a rabbit out of their hat…or disappear. Aramaic, by the way, is the original language of Jesus. And speaking of Jesus…


Christians pray. They pray for good things to happen; they pray for healing. They use their words to communicate with the Divine to ask for what they want. They pray it into being. In same cases, whatever the problem, they have to #prayitaway.

Motivational Speakers

Motivational speakers and success coaches use positive affirmations to set and reach goals: Today I joyfully reach my goal of speaking to ten people. Repeating affirmations daily keeps attention and focus on activities that allow them to reach their stated goals.

It doesn’t matter what you call it–magic words, prayer, affirmations–speaking our desires out loud moves our energy and our being closer to attaining what we desire.

Many people spend more time thinking about and talking about what they DON’T want. That’s what worry is–a prayer for what you don’t want. If you’re going to spend time focused on the future, why not think and talk about what you WANT to have happen. Speak whatever that is into being.

Helping Others and Helping Ourselves

If I’m not in a great headspace; if I’m feeling unkind and hypercritical of myself; if I have a hard time focusing on what I do want, I often start thinking of the most important people in my life: my sweetheart, my babies, my folks, my sibs, my friends. Sometimes it’s easier using my words to create a great life for them. I pray for them, their partners and friends, for joy to come their way. I use nice words, kind words.

Once I show kindness to others it’s easier to use nice words on myself and create a kinder reality for all I encounter.

Today I pray that all my words are kind words, nice words. #Amen #abracadabra


Political Correctness Equals Respect


When did being Politically Correct become a bad thing?!

Donald Trump has denounced political correctness and has built a campaign disparaging and belittling others: Hispanics, Muslims, the Black and Asian cultures, Women, the Republican Party…and the list goes on. He wears being mean, nasty, snarky, and politically INcorrect as a badge of honor, something to be proud of. But what’s wrong with being politically correct?!

Being politically correct is simply being respectful and polite; two words that are not in Trump’s vocabulary or mindset. “Respectful and polite” are attributes strong leaders emanate—even if they disagree with or see differently than the person they are speaking to or working with. It’s not necessary to be in complete agreement on issues when respect is present. Polite, respectful conversation can lead to compromise and win-win situations for all.

But when being “politically correct” is beyond a leader’s mental capacity, when polite conversation has ceased and the conversation has turned to condescending, belittling language, we all lose. The person or group who’s being verbally attacked with politically incorrect language feels victimized; and the attacker, the bully has weakened our position as a nation that acknowledges, appreciates, and embraces people or cultures that can help build a brighter future for us all.

I don’t profess to know the politics of Dear Abby, Emily Post, or Miss Manners, but each of these women made a name for herself by being polite and sharing her perspective and advice with readers. I doubt any of them would say it’s okay to mock and minimize another person or culture. And, if they heard Donald Trump today, they’d probably suggest charm school. (Too bad he can’t take his millions and millions of dollars and buy some manners.) In lieu of charm school, read this most excellent article by Sara Altschule at, 8 Etiquitte Tips That Will Make You Seem More Classy. All these suggestions are “politically correct” and easy to follow

I have a choice, you have a choice, we all have a choice: whether we use politically correct language or not. But truly, what can it hurt? Don’t you want to be acknowledged and respected? Isn’t this a simple common courtesy that is simple to extend to each other? All politics and beliefs aside.

We’re all in this together, whether we acknowledge it or not. H2H. Human to Human. So why not be respectful? Why not be politically correct?


A Thanksgivukkah Mash-Up


  A Thanksgivukkah Mash-Up

   Thanksgiving and Hanukkah have collided.


   I’m paraphrasing an article in USA Today siting the rare convergence of the traditional “festival of eating” with the “festival of lights.” The newspaper called it Thanksgivukkah. The article highlighted the relevance of the new holiday to retail sales, but I’m interested from a cultural perspective.


   This combining of words is a telling trend in today’s mash-it-all-together, create-a-new-word-for-it generation. The dictionary calls that linguistic maneuver a portmanteau:  a word formed by blending sounds from two or more distinct words and combining their meanings. Lewis Carroll was the first to write about it in Through the Looking-Glass, in 1871. Since then it’s been done thousands of times and frequents our everyday language; take “brunch” for instance, the combination of “breakfast” and “lunch.”


    It’s more than simply combining words, however. The new word usually represents the best parts of the original two words and, when combined, is exponentially better—expanding and capitalizing off two ideas as opposed to one. Who would argue that lazy weekend morning aren’t better thanks to brunch? 


   In the case of Thanksgivukkah, it’s the blending of people, cultures and traditions that creates true meaning behind the new word. It’s a respectful mixing of behaviors and beliefs that honors both distinct holidays. Thanksgivukkah represents two sides coming together to form a synergistic approach to celebration–and life! A distinctual (portmanteau intended: “distinct” mashed into “instinctual”) meme to this generation and time.


   Let Thanksgivukkah 2013 be just the beginning! It’s time to combine tried-and-true ideas with new-to-the-market technologies. It’s time to bring opposing forces together and create something even better than the two wholes. It’s time to mash-up all areas and avenues of our lives to move the world forward.


   This Thanksgivukkah week we move it forward in peace, celebration, and appreciation.