Tag: Transformation

The Power of Kind Words

nice words, kind words

Use nice, kind words to create your reality.

Our words create our reality. That is the power of language.


Magicians know this. They say “abracadabra,” which is an Aramaic word meaning “I will create as I speak.” Their words have transformative properties. They then pull a rabbit out of their hat…or disappear. Aramaic, by the way, is the original language of Jesus. And speaking of Jesus…


Christians pray. They pray for good things to happen; they pray for healing. They use their words to communicate with the Divine to ask for what they want. They pray it into being. In same cases, whatever the problem, they have to #prayitaway.

Motivational Speakers

Motivational speakers and success coaches use positive affirmations to set and reach goals: Today I joyfully reach my goal of speaking to ten people. Repeating affirmations daily keeps attention and focus on activities that allow them to reach their stated goals.

It doesn’t matter what you call it–magic words, prayer, affirmations–speaking our desires out loud moves our energy and our being closer to attaining what we desire.

Many people spend more time thinking about and talking about what they DON’T want. That’s what worry is–a prayer for what you don’t want. If you’re going to spend time focused on the future, why not think and talk about what you WANT to have happen. Speak whatever that is into being.

Helping Others and Helping Ourselves

If I’m not in a great headspace; if I’m feeling unkind and hypercritical of myself; if I have a hard time focusing on what I do want, I often start thinking of the most important people in my life: my sweetheart, my babies, my folks, my sibs, my friends. Sometimes it’s easier using my words to create a great life for them. I pray for them, their partners and friends, for joy to come their way. I use nice words, kind words.

Once I show kindness to others it’s easier to use nice words on myself and create a kinder reality for all I encounter.

Today I pray that all my words are kind words, nice words. #Amen #abracadabra


Give Up, Give In, or Give It Your All

Give It Your All

Give up, give in, or give it your all. There is power in all three. The challenge is knowing when to do what.

Giving up doesn’t have to be a bad thing. We’ve all been taught: Winners never quit and quitters never win. Well, sometimes winners make the decision to stop. Stop pursing a course of action that’s getting them no where. There is nothing wrong with re-evaluating a situation and deciding it’s time to try a different tactic, angle, or path. Give up. See what happens when you stop pushing so hard.

Giving in can also be a good thing. “Pick your battles” is a popular phrase used when imparting wisdom to people in relationships. Sure, there will be times to stand your ground, but giving in, letting someone else have their way, is one way you can honor, respect, and accept their wishes. If that helps strengthen the relationship, why not give in? Perhaps your partner will be more willing to compromise next time, when you show them how.

Giving it your all…. Now, that’s a good thing. No matter what the outcome, win or lose, when you give a task, or a person, 100% of your focus–your undivided attention–you win. On some level, you both win. (Even though some win-win scenarios don’t make themselves known for years down the road. And they might appear as win-lose in the present.) Some projects and people are worth striving for and fighting for. For giving your all.

As for knowing when to do what? That’s a bit trickier. After all, onlyyou can say “enough is enough.””

Let your heart, mind, body, and spirit be your guide. When all four parts of you are in agreement–give up, give in, or give it your all–that’s the time to take action.

They all begin with “giving.”



A Thanksgivukkah Mash-Up


  A Thanksgivukkah Mash-Up

   Thanksgiving and Hanukkah have collided.


   I’m paraphrasing an article in USA Today siting the rare convergence of the traditional “festival of eating” with the “festival of lights.” The newspaper called it Thanksgivukkah. The article highlighted the relevance of the new holiday to retail sales, but I’m interested from a cultural perspective.


   This combining of words is a telling trend in today’s mash-it-all-together, create-a-new-word-for-it generation. The dictionary calls that linguistic maneuver a portmanteau:  a word formed by blending sounds from two or more distinct words and combining their meanings. Lewis Carroll was the first to write about it in Through the Looking-Glass, in 1871. Since then it’s been done thousands of times and frequents our everyday language; take “brunch” for instance, the combination of “breakfast” and “lunch.”


    It’s more than simply combining words, however. The new word usually represents the best parts of the original two words and, when combined, is exponentially better—expanding and capitalizing off two ideas as opposed to one. Who would argue that lazy weekend morning aren’t better thanks to brunch? 


   In the case of Thanksgivukkah, it’s the blending of people, cultures and traditions that creates true meaning behind the new word. It’s a respectful mixing of behaviors and beliefs that honors both distinct holidays. Thanksgivukkah represents two sides coming together to form a synergistic approach to celebration–and life! A distinctual (portmanteau intended: “distinct” mashed into “instinctual”) meme to this generation and time.


   Let Thanksgivukkah 2013 be just the beginning! It’s time to combine tried-and-true ideas with new-to-the-market technologies. It’s time to bring opposing forces together and create something even better than the two wholes. It’s time to mash-up all areas and avenues of our lives to move the world forward.


   This Thanksgivukkah week we move it forward in peace, celebration, and appreciation.