Is there anything more exhausting than having to get up? The alarm goes off, we hit the snooze, and then lie in bed preparing ourselves for getting up and out of bed the next time it goes off.

“I want to wake up, not get up,” Steve said to me one night as I was setting the alarm. It made perfect sense to me. Who doesn’t enjoy a Saturday or Sunday morning when you can sleep until you’re done? Few of us have that luxury daily. For me it’s getting the kids on the bus, or making an early morning networking meeting, or coffee with clients. The good news, being self-employed, I have no office to report to at a certain time–besides my own home/office.

I find my agenda for the day sets my mood and perspective. If I’m going to do something that I’m not highly motivated to do (translation: I don’t want to do it), I feel proportionally exhausted. Just the thought of having to get up and do it makes me tired. Those are the multiple-snooze mornings.

Then there are those days that I can’t wait to get to my agenda–the “to do” list. Those days I wake up on my own–no alarm clock needed–the reason for getting up is also an internal “wake up” call. The day is stretched open to opportunity.

If you’re in reasonably good health, are getting to bed on time, have no external reason to set the alarm, why not let your body and mind determine the wake up time? And get up time?

And if you just can’t get up perhaps it’s not an alarm problem at all. Could the true “wake up” call be the need to change your daily agenda?

Communication Made Simple:  S-O-F-T-E-N Your Approach

Here’s a simple acronym that’ll help you build rapport with almost everyone you meet.

“S” Stands for smile.  To make a great impression, always wear a smile.  (Or at least a pleasant expression on your face.)  You’re never fully dressed without your smile.  Put it on in the morning when you put on your underwear.  (If you don’t wear underwear, that’s a whole ‘nother reason to smile.)

“O” stands for open.  Keep your body posture open.  Don’t cross your arms in front of your chest or stomach—it’s closes off the third chakra energy center.  If you must, put your hands in your front pockets—although back pockets are best as it opens up your energy centers even more.

“F” stands for forward lean.  Show people you’re interested in them by leaning slightly toward them.  If you’re standing next to them, bend the knee that’s closest two them to produce a natural stance.  At the very least, tilt your head in their direction.

“T” stands for touch.  Occasionally reach over and touch the person you’re speaking to on the hand or arm, perhaps the shoulder or upper back.  It builds camaraderie and rapport with a simple exchange of energy.  Careful not to offend with an unwanted lingering touch.

“E” stands for eye contact.  Eyes are the windows to the soul.  (That makes your eyebrows the curtains.)  Some people have very direct eye contact and others are more comfortable with intermittent eye contact.  Look people in the eye but soften your gaze if they start to advert their eyes.  Imagine using a dimmer switch to turn down the “volume” or intensity of your gaze.

“N” stands for nod.  Use visual confirmation that you’re listening—nod your head while you’re making eye contact with the person who is talking.  Notice that women nod their heads more than men.  Women nod to indicate “yes, I’m listening.”  Men nod their heads when they are in agreement.

For more suggestions on building communication skills, read why you should Drop the F-Bomb.